So, your go-to guy, Bob – your bud, your pal, your best guy-friend, the one you’ve shared your sneaky little secrets with, the one who’s schooled you on how to catch guys. Bob –the one with twinkly eyes and curly hair – is really starting to look good to you.

How do you get him to notice you as someone more special than the scruffy tomboy he usually sees in jeans and tees; the buddy who’s so comfortable around him that you don’t even bother to wear make-up; the nutball who’s told him tampon and fart jokes? You already know everything about him: what he likes and dislikes; the types of girls he prefers, his favorite sports teams...just as well as he knows everything about you and finds it cute. His dog adores you already; you’ve walked Rover for him a million times over the years. What to do? what to do?

He’s just so darn comfortable, so warm and cozy to be around; he even reads your mind. You’ve fallen like a ton of bricks.

There’s nothing stopping you from proceeding, however, before you open your mouth, before you act on this, weigh the pros and cons, because there’s no rock-hard guarantee he’ll view you as more than a friend. However, you’ll never know if you completely hold back.

Con

You’ll wreck a great friendship if he rejects you; he’ll feel uncomfortable being around you.

Pros

You fit so well together; you don’t have to “figure him out.” He loves the same things you do; better yet, you know exactly what he doesn’t like and how to circumvent any craziness. All that’s left to discover is the romance.

Try these five little steps and watch the fireworks:

Get him to see you as a date, instead of friend: Move away from the slouchy, rumbled clothes and rev up your attractiveness. Girl-ify yourself! Become your most attractive, seductive, make-up wearing, sexy self. No, do not slather gobs and gobs of mascara all over your face or bathe yourself in perfume and spritz on a ton of hair spray. Be yourself, albeit your most beautiful self.

Tread Lightly: Move slowly in your new role as Gorgeous-You. He’s accustomed to viewing you in a particular way and having a certain rhythm and steadiness with your friendship. You’ve always been his buddy. An overwhelming avalanche of cuteness might not only distract him but repel him and cause him to back away wondering what on earth has possessed you. Don’t frighten the poor man to death. Sequeing from friend to lover should be taken in tiny steps.

Invite him to more romantic settings: If most of your time with Bob thus far has been spent at “guy” places, switch it up a little. Take him to a chick-flick where the guy and girl realize their love for one another and the ending explodes with tenderness, or invite him somewhere where couples hang out and have fun. Help him imagine the two of you being together in a more intimate setting. Bring him along as a double-date with another couple.

Become more touchy-feeling and flirtatious: Men always respond to touch. Be very observant of his reactions when you lightly touch him or lay your head on his shoulder or tweek his cheeks. If he likes you in return, he will welcome any touch you bring and will reciprocate with touches of his own. Notice if he smiles invitingly or becomes uncomfortable. If it’s the latter, then stop and revert back to friend-friend, as this is an indication that he’s having a difficult time considering you in your new role as datingmaterial.

Be honest in a round-about way. Tell him you’ve noticed how attractive he is and that other women really appear to be turned on by him. ”You know what? You’re really cute. I’m just noticing that. Have I been missing something?” (Act surprised) Depending upon his feelings for you, he’ll not only be pleased that you’ve finally noticed, but turned on and look at you in a brand-new light.

If you are asking yourself "how can we be lovers after being best friends", give it a shot. You’ve everything to gain by becoming the love of your best friend’s life.

Posted on October 15, 2008. Filed under: Random | Tags: Random questions to ask friend |

1. Why isn’t phonetic spelled the way it sounds?
2. Why are there interstate highways in Hawaii?
3. Why are there flotation devices under plane seats instead of parachutes?
4. Why are cigarettes sold in gas stations when smoking is prohibited there?
5. Why do fat chance and slim chance mean the same thing?
6. Do you need a silencer if you are going to shoot a mime?
7. Have you ever imagined a world with no hypothetical situations?
8. How does the guy who drives the snowplow get to work in the mornings?
9. If 7-11 is open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, why are there locks on the doors?
10. If a cow laughed real hard, would milk come out her nose?
11. If nothing ever sticks to Teflon, how do they make Teflon stick to the pan?
12. If you tied buttered toast to the back of a cat and dropped it from a height, what would happen?
13. If you’re in a vehicle going the speed of light, what happens when you turn on the headlights?
14. Why do they put Braille dots on the keypad of the drive-up ATM?
15. Why do we drive on parkways and park on driveways?
16. Why isn’t “palindrome” spelled the same way backwards as it is forwards?
17. If a black box in a plane is indestructible, why can’t they make the whole plane out of it?
18. Why is it that when you’re driving and looking for an address, you turn down the volume on the radio?
19. Why is it so hard to remember how to spell ‘mnemonic’?
20. If someone invented instant water, what would they mix it with?
21. Why is it called a TV “set” when you only get one?
22. Why does your nose run and your feet smell?
23. Why does an alarm clock “go off” when it begins ringing?
24. If pro is the opposite of con, is progress the opposite of congress?
25. Why does “cleave” mean both split apart and stick together?
26. Why is it, whether you sit up or sit down, the result is the same?
27. Why is there an expiry date on my sour cream container?
28. Why call it a building if it’s already been built?
29. Why do kamikaze pilots wear helmets?
30. How do you know when it’s time to tune your bagpipes?
31. Is it true that cannibals don’t eat clowns because they taste funny?
32. Does ‘virgin wool’ come from sheep the shepherd hasn’t caught yet?
33. If the front of your car says ‘DODGE’, do you really need a horn?
34. What do sheep count when they can’t get to sleep?
35. When you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn?
36. Does fuzzy logic tickle?
37. Do blind Eskimos heave seeing-eye sled dogs?
38. Do they have reserved parking for non-handicap people at the Special Olympics?
39. How come wrong numbers are never busy?
40. Do radioactive cats have 18 half-lives?
41. Why call it “take” a dump, when you leave something behind?
42. What was the best thing before sliced bread?
43. Why do we call it a hot water heater if the water is already hot?
44. If you throw a cat out a car window does it become kitty litter?
45. If corn oil comes from corn, where does baby oil come from?
46. If there is no God, who pops up the next Kleenex in the box?
47. How do they get a deer to cross at that yellow road sign?
48. If it’s tourist season, why can’t we shoot them?
49. Is there another word for thesaurus?
50. After eating, do amphibians have to wait one hour before getting out of the water?
51. How can there be self-help “groups”?
52. If white wine goes with fish, do white grapes go with sushi?
53. If a mute swears, does his mother make him wash his hands with soap?
54. Is there another word for synonym?
55. Isn’t it a bit unnerving that doctors call what they do “practice”?
56. Just before someone gets nervous, do they experience cocoons in their stomach?
57. It is hard to understand how a cemetery raised its burial cost and blamed it on the cost of living.
58. If Barbie is so popular, why do you have to buy her friends?
59. Why is a pear called a pear when there is only one?
60. What do they pack Styrofoam in?
61. Why did God give men nipples?
62. Is grass really greener on the other side?
63. Do boxer shorts box?
64. Why do you wear a pair of panties and only one bra?
65. Why don’t sheep shrink when it rains?
66. Why are they called apartments when they are all stuck together?
67. Why is it called a “near miss” when you don’t hit something?
68. When sign makers go on strike, is there anything written on their signs?
69. Before the light bulb was invented, what appeared over peoples heads when they had an idea?
70. If you spin an Oriental person around and around, does he become disorientated?
71. If a vegetable goes into a coma, is it called a person?
72. If you try to fail, and succeed, which have you done?
73. Why does the word monosyllabic contain five syllables?
74. If you wear an antennae to a wedding, would the reception be better?
75. Why is abbreviated such a long word?
76. If you put a chameleon in a mirrored box what color would it change to?
77. Why do people point to their wrist when they want to know the time? Do I point to my crotch when I want to know where the bathroom is?
78. Why is there an ’s’ in lisp?
79. If you were scared half to death twice, would you be 3/4 dead or 100% dead?
80. If the cops arrest a mime, do they tell him he has the right to remain silent?
81. If you ate pasta and antipasti, would you still be hungry?
82. If one synchronized swimmer drowns, do the rest end up drowning as well?
83. What should you do if you see an endangered animal eating an endangered plant?
84. If ATM stands for Automatic Teller Machine, why do we call it an ATM machine? And if PIN stands for Personal Identification Number, why do we call it a PIN number?

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